Love is the Question! A Simple New Year’s Resolution That Can Change Your Life

(Previously published on Medium.com)

At the beginning of every year we get caught up in the promise of turning over a new leaf and make New Year’s resolutions. But by January 15th, despite our best intentions, 95% of us don’t keep our resolutions. I never did…until recently.

It wasn’t one of your typical resolutions: exercise more, drink less, diet or quit smoking. Some people would think it a bit strange. To my surprise, not only did my New Year’s resolution make me feel so good, I did it for the entire year. But it was so simple and do-able, you might want to try it yourself.

A few years ago, I rang in the New Year at a drum circle. With a dozen other people, I beat a hand-held Native American drum. Ba-bam! Ba-bam! The living room vibrated with the sound that mimicked our heartbeat and soon became hypnotic. That’s when I heard my late wife, Joy, ask me a question that changed my life.

This wasn’t the first time I’d received what some might call supernatural communications from Joy. When she succumbed to breast cancer on Good Friday 2007, I was devastated. But a remarkable thing happened — she led me on an incredible journey to heal my grief. I eventually wrote an award-winning memoir about it called JOYride: How My Late Wife Loved Me Back To Life. So naturally, I took communications from her very seriously.

The question Joy asked me during that fateful New Year’s Eve drum circle was simple yet profound: What do you love?

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